By Karin Leonard
How you feel about yourself is
one of those intangible factors that influences everything in your life.
The trust that “I can do it!” – whatever “it” is, constitutes at
least half of any potential accomplishment. Increasing self-confidence is
like putting money into a high-yield bank account – it builds a solid
foundation for your future.
Assuming full responsibility
for your life, the good and the bad, means taking charge of your destiny.
This builds the confidence that you can rely on yourself. And to the
degree that you are able to let go of blame, resentment and anger – felt
towards yourself and others – you will experience freedom to shape your
future. I’m not suggesting to go into denial about feelings or the past,
but to find completion – and the sooner the better. Unfinished business
can drain your energy and keep you captive, blocking creative potential.
Being responsible also means looking towards solutions, and noticing what
you can do to make a difference in your life and for the people around you
– instead of looking for faults in others or for causes outside your
circle of influence.
Yourself – More Than Others
your upbringing was anything like mine, you were taught early on that
authority lives outside your own self, and that everybody else knows
what’s good and right for you. Yet, in most cases, the keys to your most
pressing issues and questions are right there, inside you. Strong inner
wisdom and intuition are available to all of us – if we only let it in.
Of course, there is much to be learned from the world, and nothing is
wrong with bouncing ideas off your family psychic, or getting other
professional help. However, remember that the final authority about any
issue in your life is within you, and you alone.
information shows up all the time, often quickly –yet we may not notice
it through the veil of “should’s” and “what-if’s”. The
challenge is to recognize your intuitive voice in the midst of static, and
to strengthen this reliable source of guidance. How?
Start with little things: Let’s say on a sunny morning you get
the sudden hunch that it might rain, even though your head says “not
possible, look at the sky.”
Give your intuition the benefit of the doubt, and bring the
umbrella anyway (especially in these blessed El Niño times, so to speak).
And instead of continuously asking other people’s opinion on
everything from what you should wear to what to have for lunch – it may
be better to start going with what your instincts say.
Sure, there will be a fair amount of hit and miss, just as with
learning any new skill – that’s why you start with rather low-impact
choices. But the pay-off is enormous, as your life becomes more
inner-directed, and the gold of self-confidence accumulates.