By Karin Leonard
defines resilience as “ability to recover from or adjust easily to
change…” At the beginning of this new century, many of us may feel a
mixture of millennium anxiety and anticipation.
In these times, the skill to rebound from and flow with the
multitude of challenges life brings, is crucial.
It’s not news that
taking care of your health, exercise and diet are important. So why do so many of us struggle with these “basic”
challenges? From my own life
and my work with my clients, I know that the gap between what we want
and what we do can be greater than the Grand Canyon. Yet, a healthy lifestyle is the cornerstone of resilience.
When your immune system is strong, you’re in good shape and your
energy level is high, you can stay centered even during whirlwind weeks.
How to get there? Considering
your daily schedule, set realistic and attainable goals.
When designing an exercise routine, for example, start slowly,
choose activities you like (or could learn to like), and fit them into
your life with ease, so you can sustain them.
Be patient with yourself. The
same holds true for food: rather than going on crash diets, think about
healthy nutrition as a lifetime foundation.
Educate yourself, make gradual changes and learn to listen to your
body. You are the final authority for what sustains you and builds
take two people and give them an identical day: Ron, who gets stressed at
the thought of his workday alone, and Tom, who doesn’t seem to
get phased by the rockiest moments. Their
experience of the same events differs wildly.
Being able to “flow” with everyday insanity boosts your
resilience to the next level. How
to do that? For a peaceful
state of mind, decide that it is a priority.
Then, practice, practice, practice to wake out of the habitual
trance that treats everyday stress like an emergency.
Most of the minor upsets of your day
traffic, project deadlines, people annoyances…
can be handled in first gear instead of with full force.
Your body follows your mind, and the more upset you get the greater
the wear and tear on your system. Next
time you get annoyed, take a deep breath and decide whether the incident
is worth wasting precious energy. If
it is minor, let it wash over you, think a pleasant thought, say something
to yourself like “my health is more important than this”.
However, do not stuff your feelings or important issues.
Address them assertively – not aggressively
when you feel resourceful. Your
results will be much greater, your relationships will flourish, and your
resilience soars. Yet to
become more centered you don’t need to squelch your passion or put a lid
on how intensely you experience life.
On the contrary, choosing harmony within makes your life force
available to enjoy what really matters to you.
When energy isn’t wasted on negativity, you are free to tap more
of your potential, and to create what you want.