By Karin Leonard
Part One we explored conditional versus “natural” happiness. The
conclusion was that you can greatly influence the level of joy you
experience every day of your life. Today, let’s find out how to boost
happiness on a regular basis.
be happy is essentially a decision, and begins with the intention to
experience joy. Throughout the day, you encounter many choice points.
Every day, you make countless decisions: you determine your actions, and
less visibly, you choose the focus of your thoughts. Are you obsessing
about the crowded highway, do you stew over irritations with coworkers –
are you simply rehearsing what’s not working in your life? Or do you
choose to notice the gifts in your day, like the friendly words of a
stranger, the reward of a task well done, or the luxury of long summer
you concentrate on being happy, just as with any goal, you are more likely
to experience joy. Remember, what you focus on grows. Might as well water
the flowers, and not the weeds. Sure, there are plenty of problems, and
each day brings new challenges that need to be addressed. Yet you
determine whether everyday life leaves you gloomy or glad. How you
interpret the events of the day is up to you, and that will greatly
influence your level of happiness.
psychologist Carl G. Jung defined happiness as “living in harmony with
who we are meant to be.” In other words, as we express more of our
potential and find out what makes us happy, we can actively take charge of
experiencing bliss. This starts with identifying simple acts that bring
you pleasure, like a walk on the beach or coffee with a friend, to
fulfilling your soul’s purpose. How happy you are reflects the quality
of your life from moment to moment, along with being on track with your
goals and intentions.
you enjoy the journey, in addition to the results you produce?
What are your requirements for happiness –
your soul’s desires to the everyday joys that will have you smiling?
If greater happiness is a priority for you, may I suggest you go on
a quest for understanding what “being in harmony with who you are meant
to be” signifies to you.
his book “The Art of Happiness,” the Dalai Lama states that a
significant purpose of life is to cultivate and share happiness. According
to the spiritual and political leader of Tibet, happiness is essentially a
state of mind. Drawing on his 60-year, in-depth experience of monastic
contemplation, he describes how clearing the mind of negativity, and
connecting with our deep self brings lasting happiness.
of your mind as a deep lake. Whether the surface of the water is welling
up with huge waves, or displaying peaceful ripples, the bottom of the lake
stays relatively calm. And as you align with the deeper levels of your
being, you will be less affected by the daily up and down. How to do that?
Regular reflection or meditation helps. A peaceful mind is conducive to
conclusion, you can cultivate happiness through both doing and being: make
it easy to experience joy in your daily life, and inquire deeply into the
longings of your soul.