By Karin Leonard
we discussed taking full responsibility for your destiny, and trusting
yourself more than others, as a foundation for a lifelong investment in
your self-confidence “bank-account.”
Today we will explore further key factors to maximize that venture.
have everything it takes to create success and happiness in your life –
the challenge is to truly know and believe that, beyond the shadow of any
doubt. Your potential is almost endless – what gets in the way are
learned limitations and restricting beliefs about yourself. Your parents,
like yourself, are human beings with shortcomings, and products of their
upbringing and generation.
More than likely, they have passed on their own assumptions and
fears to you. What you believe about yourself is like a lens you look
through – it influences and “colors” everything in your life.
Furthermore, these presumptions are self- reinforcing -- we continue to
produce proof that they are indeed true.
reminded of someone that we’ll call Bruce. His early school years were
Not feeling very comfortable in class, Bruce kept getting low
grades. The other kids called him “stupid,” and even his parents
complained about his finite intelligence. After noticing that he had
accepted the learned assumption – “I’m stupid” – as truth, Bruce
began to examine the facts, changing this limited belief to what is true
for him now – that he is a very intelligent adult.
greater self-confidence, begin to collect evidence that you are capable
and trustworthy, which over time will change your beliefs about yourself,
and lead to greater self-trust.
is nurtured by caring for yourself as if you are your own best friend.
Someone who really cherishes you is likely to encourage, cheer you on, and
see your greatest assets. Do you treat yourself that way? It is never too
late to start… and it is quite handy to bring your inner
“cheerleader” along, on a daily basis. It starts with how you talk to
yourself when you first wake up in the morning. Do you immediately worry
about possible disasters in your day -- or do you look on the bright side?
Try some encouraging self-talk like “this will be a great day”,
or “I’ll do just wonderful in today’s presentation” as you wake
up, or in the shower. This is not “make-believe” or wishful thinking:
what you say to yourself on a regular basis is more powerful than
any suggestion from another person ever could be.
If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anybody else?
has the magnetic property of a cumulative bank account – the more you
invest in it, the greater the payback. Believing in yourself provides the
kind of foundation for your life that has you sleeping peacefully at
night, and expressing yourself joyfully throughout the day. And the best
part: the path to victory is absolutely in your own hands…