Gentle Change - Lasting Success

Part Two

By Karin Leonard

Last month we explored making change sustainable and turning self-criticism into support. Today we’ll further explore the nature of change and how to make it last.

Sudden Jumps and Steady Growth

Putting the hype of unrealistic expectations aside, we are able to take evolutionary leaps in our mental, emotional and spiritual development. There is the great magic of a sudden flash of insight, or the far reaching effects of inner shifts deep in the unconscious mind.
However, the key to make such profound change work is the steady growth and support that follows. Internal transformation ripples through the fabric of who we are, and therefore, affects all aspects of life. To sustain development, it helps to set up structures of support.

Systems of Support

The nurturing ground of continued change is self-acceptance. Success does not come about by will power alone. Pushing yourself too hard, or a self-punishing attitude do not go far. Creating your best life because you care about yourself works. Nonetheless, making positive change last does require care and attention. We are creatures of habit, and without daily focus and helpful systems, even the most profound inner shift loses momentum. For example, if work has been consuming your life and you have the overpowering insight that at the end of your life you want to remember more than your stressed days in the office, the realization alone is not enough to alter your lifestyle. The next step is to design a sustainable rhythm, balancing work with other important aspects of your life, and then gradually implementing your plan.

Ecology of Change

As you shift and grow, all areas of your existence are affected. It is therefore a good idea to consider how changes in your behavior will affect the entire system you are part of. How you relate to your mate, children and coworkers might change. Your work, home and leisure could take on a new flair. Most of this will likely be positive, yet don’t be
surprised if the people you interact with resist you changing. It is helpful to be patient and understanding with significant other’s reactions, yet clear in your communication and solid in your boundaries. In the long run, taking care of yourself and cultivating the change you desire, will benefit everyone you interact with. When you are happy and in harmony with yourself, all else falls into place.

 

 

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