By Karin Leonard
Last month we explored making change sustainable
and turning self-criticism into support. Today weíll further explore
the nature of change and how to make it last.
Jumps and Steady Growth
Putting the hype of unrealistic
expectations aside, we are able to take evolutionary leaps in our mental,
emotional and spiritual development. There is the great magic of a sudden
flash of insight, or the far reaching effects of inner shifts deep in
the unconscious mind.
However, the key to make such profound change work is the steady growth
and support that follows. Internal transformation ripples through the
fabric of who we are, and therefore, affects all aspects of life. To
sustain development, it helps to set up structures of support.
The nurturing ground of continued
change is self-acceptance. Success does not come about by will power
alone. Pushing yourself too hard, or a self-punishing attitude do not
go far. Creating your best life because you care about yourself works.
Nonetheless, making positive change last does require care and attention.
We are creatures of habit, and without daily focus and helpful systems,
even the most profound inner shift loses momentum. For example, if work
has been consuming your life and you have the overpowering insight that
at the end of your life you want to remember more than your stressed
days in the office, the realization alone is not enough to alter your
lifestyle. The next step is to design a sustainable rhythm, balancing
work with other important aspects of your life, and then gradually implementing
As you shift and grow, all
areas of your existence are affected. It is therefore a good idea to
consider how changes in your behavior will affect the entire system
you are part of. How you relate to your mate, children and coworkers
might change. Your work, home and leisure could take on a new flair.
Most of this will likely be positive, yet donít be
surprised if the people you interact with resist you changing. It is
helpful to be patient and understanding with significant otherís reactions,
yet clear in your communication and solid in your boundaries. In the
long run, taking care of yourself and cultivating the change you desire,
will benefit everyone you interact with. When you are happy and in harmony
with yourself, all else falls into place.