By Karin Leonard
You are sitting on a gold mine. You are given a
treasure that far exceeds Aladdin’s lamp (who wants to deal with a
moody genie, anyway?). You possess the prize of endless evolution: the
human brain, and with it your mind, the key to your
destiny……nonetheless, you may experience gaps between what you want
– and the reality at hand.
MAKE
CHANGE WORK
Many of my clients are
bright, successful people – yet they often consult with me, because
they have a difficult time changing habits, or managing emotions. Maybe
you have also bumped into challenges, when trying to quit smoking, or
attempting to stop some other pesky habit. Or possibly, you’ve been
striving to reach some cherished goal, only to find yourself back where
you started from…
When we want change, we
usually know what actions we should
take – whether it is a new exercise routine, a healthier diet or more
satisfying relationships. Yet the older, emotional currents within us
may be running in the opposite direction. Hence we set out with the best
of intentions, while getting results to the contrary. For your plans to succeed over time, all the layers of your personality – conscious and unconscious,
emotional and rational -- need to be bought into your goals.
Marry
Head and Heart
Have you ever noticed how
“making yourself” do something tends to have a short life-span? You
may be able to “discipline” yourself for a while, jump out of bed at
five am and go for that morning run, whether you want to or not. Hey –
if that works for you –congratulations! Don’t change a
thing…however if you find that commitment to new goals peters out
after the initial enthusiasm, you may need to look a little deeper. Your
other than conscious mind also
has to be convinced that your goal suits you. Otherwise, nature’s
unbending commitment to your survival protects or prevents any behavior
that it interprets as a threat to you.
I’m reminded of my client
Susan, whose high stress job left no time to express her creative talent
– until she started developing debilitating rashes that forced her to take time off work.
More than likely every part
of you, conscious or unconscious, has the best of intentions – yet
unless we get them to work in unison, internal conflicts are likely.
Here it really pays to go slow -- in order to go fast. Marrying the
different parts of you, and with that, heart and mind, opens the door to
a whole new world – and your personal power soars. Suddenly, the
forces that were at war, begin uniting their magic in your favor, and
the sky is no longer the limit…